Transformative Journey

A blog by Charlie McGillis - graduate of the Brave Feminine Leadership Programs

I embarked on a transformative journey with a group of inspiring senior leaders, guided by the remarkable Melissa Hamilton and Kelli Hayes, from Brave Feminine Leadership. Yes, every one of them was a woman, but more importantly, they were trailblazers in their fields, each a powerhouse in their own right. What struck me most was how universal our challenges were as women in senior leadership—transcending industries and backgrounds. Were these challenges rooted in upbringing, experience, or societal norms? Likely, it’s a blend of all three.

 This journey not only shifted my perspective on leadership but also deepened my understanding of what it means to lead with purpose, authenticity, and resilience. Here are the key lessons I’ve embraced:

 1. Finding Clarity and Space

As a CEO, it’s about defining your purpose, aligning with your company’s needs, and understanding how to effectively “use the board” to drive results. True leadership requires carving out the time to think strategically—not just filling your calendar with meetings. For me, daily journaling and meditation became invaluable tools for creating the mental space needed to stay focused and visionary.

2. Owning Your Career Strategy

In the military, I believed—and taught others—that doing your job exceptionally well would naturally lead to recognition and new opportunities. But in the civilian world, self-advocacy is essential. I had to become my own cheerleader, craft a strategy to achieve my personal and professional goals, and build a network of mentors and advocates. Staying future-ready means owning your personal and professional brand and ensuring you’re always prepared for the next opportunity.

3. Giving Yourself Grace

Balancing life’s demands is hard—sometimes seemingly impossible. One of the best decisions I made was choosing the right partner. A partner whose values, ambitions, and mindset align with mine who is a bedrock of support, amplifying my growth and happiness. This choice impacts every area of life—your career, friendships, and family. But even with the right partner, I’ve learned that I can’t do it all. I’ve embraced the power of prioritization, knowing some things will inevitably get less attention. And I’ve found strength in saying “no”—without explanation. It’s a small act of grace that preserves focus, energy, and well-being.

These lessons have reshaped how I lead, strategize, and grow as a professional and as a person.

Charlie McGillis

What about you?
What leadership lessons have you learned along your journey? I’d love to hear how you’ve navigated similar challenges. Let’s start the conversation..